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Edit, Man, Edit

Editing has gotten a bad rap.

As a writer, and someone interested in the written word as a fulfilling means of communication, one would think it strange I believe in the power of editing.  The ability to be precise and concise in ones writing is the number one rule in many a wordsmiths handbook….even the prolific Stephen King touts the unspoken golden rule – brevity.  

Our society is a full pendulum swing away from editing itself…between Facebook and Twitter, cell phones and iPads, we let it all ‘hang out’.  We say anything we please – without fear, without care.  And yes, there is something bold in that…powerful….but also very short sighted, and for lack of a better word, stupid.

I do look up to people who speak their mind – who are honest and forthright – who say what they think and feel.  It is very brave.  When spoken eloquently, the truth or opinion of truth, can change people…much as a Martin Luther King Jr. did when he spoke his ‘dream’ to the world.

And then there is someone like Mark Twain, who I just recently heard, is having his autobiography published (in volumes, no less) 100 years after his death.  One of the most famous authors of our time, he had an ability to be both biting and sentimental when he spoke his beliefs.  Apparently he left tons of material behind, in a diary type fashion, that was to be compiled and published a century after his death….some say to protect those he wrote of (as he obviously didn’t want to edit his material) and others say it was a grand PR move.  But whatever the reason, Mr. Twain did not mince nor edit his meaty words.

So why do I believe in editing so strongly?  Because it is often in our best interests.  We all do it on a daily basis whether we realize it or not.  We edit what we say to our boss (how many times have we’ve bitten our tongue), what we say to our loved ones, or even strangers.  We all know saying what you really feel is not always best at the moment you’re feeling it – although the reverse argument has its validity.  It’s more of a “think” before you speak, before you post, before you tweet, philosophy I believe in.  And what could it hurt?  Does a re-read of an email or report or letter ever cause any harm?  No…but the public publishing can.  As the expression goes, sometimes things are better left unsaid.

Our forefathers edited the Declaration of Independence before they signed it, didn’t they?  The laws of our society are such that although we’ve penned our right to free speech, we should also understand that with that freedom comes responsibility…to each other.  Speaking out, demonstrating, blogging are great venues of expression and sharing – but they should be tempered with humility and compassion…for others viewpoints and belief systems.  So many people abuse the right of free speech as a means to promote their own personal agendas which creates an unhealthy society, mired in the mentality of “me”. 

Our modern social media environment has allowed us to become more global than we ever imagined – and as technology continues to expand and advance, so too will each of our reaches.  What you put out in the world – in print or video – will become part of your history, your story to tell.  Say what you feel, what you think, what you believe…but always keep one thing in mind…learn to edit.

Edit.  It begins with E…and I love E.

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Time

“Like sand through the hourglass, so are the days of our lives.”
That was the open to the soap opera Days of our Lives.  The image of the hourglass, as the sand slips through the narrow tube, is impactful.  It is the constant reminder that time is elusive…always moving, impossible to hold, slipping through our fingers.

God, that sounds depressing lol.  I don’t mean it to be.  I think time – and its concept – is actually very fascinating.

As a hungover Seamus recently said to me, my sister and Rich at the diner one Saturday morning in Connecticut, “you can always make more money, but you can’t make more time” (can’t remember exactly what he was referencing but it struck me nonetheless.)

You can’t make more time.  True.  We can not manufacture more time – we can’t go into the lab and put some chemicals together and produce time (some would argue time travel possibilities here, but they’re nerds and shouldn’t be taken too seriously.)  We can prolong time – as the medical field often does in the case of the very sick – in prolonging someone’s life, thereby creating more time than what was expected in one souls life span.

But time at its very core – is always present and never here.  It passes without thought or work.  Much as our breath goes in and out of our lungs…on automatic pilot.  We don’t “think” time into existence….it just is.  We can’t hold it, smell it or taste it.  We can only see it through the invention of clocks, calendars and various measuring devices.  Much like the ancients had the sundial to view the passing of time, we have our digital armband displays or our towering Big Ben monoliths.

Sometimes, we want time to pass quickly, and other times we want to freeze it – holding a precious moment tightly so it doesn’t escape us.  But time is ultimately a measure of the past and future.  The present comes and goes in a blink of an eye – and then we are left with the memory of what is gone and the thought of what is yet to be. 

I recently heard a man on the bus say something like you don’t want to do something because otherwise you were going to “spend your whole life…..” doing this or that (I was obviously half asleep on the way to work.)  But my point is this – time is a commodity.  That bus-man said it – we can “spend our lives” doing something…hopefully putting it to good use, but that we can spend away our time, our one and only truly important resource.  “Time well spent” as the expression goes is what I think Seamus was refering to….wanting to keep it, use it, enjoy it – because we can’t get more at Home Depot.  There is no aisle for Time.

It’s four simple letters…time…but it’s huge in how we measure our history, our lives and ultimately, ourselves.

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WTF

What the family!  This is a rare sighting of the 6 members of my family together in one location at the same time.  Taken a zillion years ago – at my parents condo in Milford, Connecticut.  I believe – without proper validation – that this picture was taken at my parents 25th wedding anniversary party.  (Either that, or a Christmas party with the neighbors, but the clothing lends itself to a more June timeline.)

You can see we are all in fine “spirits”…looking so 1983.  God. 

A few things have changed in the 27 years since…mom has passed, dad has remarried and the rest of us are alot grayer.  But hey, we’re still standing. 

Blood.  Family.  Forever.

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9/11 Numbers

The day is burned in our memories for those of us who were here in New York City.  Making our way to work on that September morning.  Blue skies, nice temperature…nothing unusual.

Until the unbelievable happened.

I heard people talking about a plane hitting the World Trade Towers….an accident surely.  I went into my office and watched it unfold on television.  My heart pounded.  I paced back and forth, not believing what I was seeing and hearing.  We were a city in shock.

I left my building in midtown and although there were the usual city sounds – peppered with emergency vehicle sirens – it felt oddly silent….as if I had water in my ears…muffled, incoherent.  I managed to get out of the city, as so many others, fleeing any way we could.  We were all so very scared.

We know the facts – and have heard them repeatedly over the years – so I don’t need to rehash them here.  Except for the numbers.

I found this information – from 2002, one year after the attack – so some of the numbers have obviously changed – but the overall statistics are heart stopping and worth remembering:

The initial numbers are indelible: 8:46 a.m. and 9:02 a.m. Time the burning towers stood: 56 minutes and 102 minutes. Time they took to fall: 12 seconds. From there, they ripple out.

•Total number killed in attacks (official figure as of 9/5/02): 2,819

•Number of firefighters and paramedics killed: 343

•Number of NYPD officers: 23

•Number of Port Authority police officers: 37

•Number of WTC companies that lost people: 60

•Number of employees who died in Tower One: 1,402

•Number of employees who died in Tower Two: 614

•Number of employees lost at Cantor Fitzgerald: 658

•Number of U.S. troops killed in Operation Enduring Freedom: 22

•Number of nations whose citizens were killed in attacks: 115

•Ratio of men to women who died: 3:1

•Age of the greatest number who died: between 35 and 39

•Bodies found “intact”: 289

•Body parts found: 19,858

•Number of families who got no remains: 1,717

•Estimated units of blood donated to the New York Blood Center: 36,000

•Total units of donated blood actually used: 258

•Number of people who lost a spouse or partner in the attacks: 1,609

•Estimated number of children who lost a parent: 3,051

•Percentage of Americans who knew someone hurt or killed in the attacks: 20

•FDNY retirements, January–July 2001: 274

•FDNY retirements, January–July 2002: 661

•Number of firefighters on leave for respiratory problems by January 2002: 300

•Number of funerals attended by Rudy Giuliani in 2001: 200

•Number of FDNY vehicles destroyed: 98

•Tons of debris removed from site: 1,506,124

•Days fires continued to burn after the attack: 99

•Jobs lost in New York owing to the attacks: 146,100

•Days the New York Stock Exchange was closed: 6

•Point drop in the Dow Jones industrial average when the NYSE reopened: 684.81

•Days after 9/11 that the U.S. began bombing Afghanistan: 26

•Total number of hate crimes reported to the Council on American-Islamic Relations nationwide since 9/11: 1,714

•Economic loss to New York in month following the attacks: $105 billion

•Estimated cost of cleanup: $600 million

•Total FEMA money spent on the emergency: $970 million

•Estimated amount donated to 9/11 charities: $1.4 billion

•Estimated amount of insurance paid worldwide related to 9/11: $40.2 billion

•Estimated amount of money needed to overhaul lower-Manhattan subways: $7.5 billion

•Amount of money recently granted by U.S. government to overhaul lower-Manhattan subways: $4.55 billion

•Estimated amount of money raised for funds dedicated to NYPD and FDNY families: $500 million

•Percentage of total charity money raised going to FDNY and NYPD families: 25

•Average benefit already received by each FDNY and NYPD widow: $1 million

•Percentage increase in law-school applications from 2001 to 2002: 17.9

•Percentage increase in Peace Corps applications from 2001 to 2002: 40

•Percentage increase in CIA applications from 2001 to 2002: 50

•Number of songs Clear Channel Radio considered “inappropriate” to play after 9/11: 150

•Number of mentions of 9/11 at the Oscars: 26

•Apartments in lower Manhattan eligible for asbestos cleanup: 30,000

•Number of apartments whose residents have requested cleanup and testing: 4,110

•Number of Americans who changed their 2001 holiday-travel plans from plane to train or car: 1.4 million

•Estimated number of New Yorkers suffering from post-traumatic-stress disorder as a result of 9/11: 422,000